Managing Your Anger

Are you quick to fly into a rage when someone pushes your buttons? Do you seethe with fury over minor slights?


Anger is a natural, human emotion which we all feel from time to time. Learning to understand your anger gives you the power to change destructive behaviour and make positive differences to your outlook on life.


There are two types of anger: external anger and internal anger. External anger is more common in men, whereas internal anger is usually found in women and is linked to disappointment, frustration and depression. When you feel angry try to understand your thoughts and feelings. Are they valid? Are you over-reacting? How will you deal with the emotion?


Ask yourself some questions – and be honest with yourself. Are you overwhelmed, tired and angry often?


Tiredness and stress lead to irritability. This in turn makes it easier to get to your anger point quickly, as though it is simmering away constantly just waiting for a trigger to set you off. It also causes depression and moodiness and this too leads to feelings of anger. If you suffer from sleep deprivation and/or prolonged insomnia it is imperative to seek medical advice. A good night’s rest and sleep can work wonders.


When others make you feel angry, try to recognize the cause. Is it the actual person, something they’ve said or done, or an issue within yourself that needs to be dealt with and healed. In metaphysical theory when we see something we dislike in another (a personality trait or pattern), we in turn recognize something within ourselves that we dislike. Just like the old saying goes ‘it takes one to know one.’ Figure out what your issue is, then work on yourself and deal with it appropriately.


A lot of anger comes from bottling up our emotions until they finally bubble up to the top, over-flow and spiral out of control. Deal with your emotions beforehand rather than afterwards. Only you know how you really feel about things, so work on them before they have the chance to be buried only to come up with fury at a later date.


Be upfront and honest with yourself and others. Become more assertive within yourself and calmly tell others what has upset you before the situation escalates. Explain what has made you angry (or what makes you angry) and why. Be specific and upfront.


In today’s fast-moving world we are all so busy trying to fit everything into our day to day lives that it is easy to allow ongoing stress and anger to build and grow as we go from one task/frustration to the next. Make a point to reduce stress in your life by exercising daily (even a simple walk will achieve this) and by paying attention to your diet. A healthy diet and physically active lifestyle helps us to keep ourselves in balance. Meditation, deep breathing, yoga and/or any personally enjoyable pastime will alleviate your feelings of anger and frustration.


Call for ‘time out’. If feeling overwhelmed with anger, take some time out. Take yourself away from the situation rather than react in the heat of the moment. Count to ten – then count to ten again. Calm yourself.


Our emotions and how we deal with them are our own responsibility – solely. Others can upset us, but it is up to us as to how we handle it. Take responsibility for your own actions.

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"Measure your success not by the mistakes you make, but how you attend to them." - John Vale

"If you don't like something, change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it".

- Mary Engelbreit

"Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people".

- Anonymous

"Experience is not what happens to a man, it's what a man does with what happens to him".

- Aldous Huxley

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Joanne Walmsley
Sacred Scribes

Blaze & Rusty - Animal Communication and the Law of Attraction

My daughter Sarah had always wanted a horse, and I’d promised her one since she was 3 years old. She is now 14. The time had finally come, so off we went seeking a suitable horse for a young novice. We were after an aged mare who was patient, tolerant and forgiving towards a learner rider … a trustworthy horse that had ‘been there and done that.’


We stood in the middle of a huge paddock full of horses of all ages, stages and breeds. We knew we were at the right place … we just had to pick the right horse. I reminded Sarah to use her intentions, love and intuition to draw ‘her’ horse towards her.
Out of the pack strode a most beautiful young, gangly colt … never really handled by humans and totally untrained.


The breeder told me that he was a shy and timid horse who didn’t like his face and ears being touched. Sarah was already walking towards the young horse as he slowly made his way towards her. When they met in the middle, the young colt pushed his face towards her, and Sarah raised her hand to his forehead to stroke his face and ears. He didn’t flinch. The match was made, come what may. Sarah named her young horse ‘Blaze’ due to his startling white blaze.


Because Blaze was so young and required a bit of human handling before being released to us, he was to spend the following months with the breeder and his paddock family. In the meantime Sarah and I would visit Blaze a couple of times per month so they could become accustomed to one another, and so that Robyn (the breeder) could work with Sarah and Blaze together, teaching them both basic techniques.


To make Blaze feel comfortable and to demonstrate her techniques, Robyn would bring in and work with another young colt … Blaze’s paddock make and best horsey-friend … a pure-bred Quarterhorse who we nicknamed ‘Rusty’ due his vibrant chestnut coat.


After our sessions Sarah and I would talk about the horses and I’d always comment that it would be lovely for Blaze to have his horsey-friend come with him once he left the familiar safety of his home and herd to come to our farm.


I’d thought about it a trillion times, but couldn’t seriously consider buying him … one young horse, plus Jessie the Shetland x Mini pony we already have, was quite enough. I wouldn’t have the time, talent, experience, patience or knowledge to work with such a young horse … or with any horse for that matter. I love horses, but I’m not interested in riding them.


Having studied and written a book about animal communication, I am aware of the psychic links and bonds between animals and humans. I’d always felt that Blaze’s paddock-mate wanted to come to our farm when the time came for Blaze to leave. I felt that he’d become just as fond of me as I’d become of him, and he certainly wouldn’t want to be separated from Blaze.


The week Blaze was due to be delivered to us, I received an urgent phone call from his breeder. She’d run out of water in her paddocks, and needed to disperse all of her horses to other properties as soon as possible.
Would I be willing to take on Rusty aswell?
I didn’t need asking twice!
But rather than just taking him on temporarily and handing him back once her water situation was fixed, I offered to buy him outright. I just knew I wouldn’t be able to give him up in the future, so the deal was done. Rusty arrived early the following Saturday morning side-by-side with his best buddy Blaze, and both have settled in nicely.


Although I hadn’t consciously ‘put out’ for Rusty, I had managed to draw him into my life through my heart-felt desire for him.


I have been studying animal communication for some time now and intend to practice psychically communicating with Rusty. He is very open and receptive, and as I’ve learned, horses are very talkative animals and have a lot to say.


Wish me luck …!

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Joanne Walmsley
Sacred Scribes