Aug 10, 2010


Difficulties and life lessons enter our lives through many different doorways – accidents, illness, loss of career, relationship upheavals and so forth. The variations are endless. Each of us is presented with life lessons and experiences in order to grow and learn from them. The choices we make in everything we do have long-term repercussions - be they positive or negative to our circumstances.

Most often when difficulties appear in our lives we feel powerless, causing us to wonder how this could possibly happen to us.

We certainly don’t have total control over all the situations and events in our lives, but we DO use our choices to bring about many of our circumstances. Every choice we make, large and small, have long and short-term consequences. Every choice matters. This is why we anguish over all sorts of choices we need to make in our lives, in every moment. We can either choose what our intuition tells us, or we can make our choices based upon other factors. We can make our highest choices for our own good, or we can ‘settle’ for less than what we may truly desire. Either way our intuition and soul know our choice. The choices we make bring about the experiences that match that choice, be it in the long or short-term.

For most people, at some point in their life they have ‘settled’ for someone who was not really what they wanted in the relationship sector of their life. As humans we do this because of the dislike and/or fear of being ‘alone’. We would rather be in a relationship with an obviously unsuitable partner than spend our lives as what we perceive to be ‘alone’. When we do this we are ‘settling’. When we choose to stay in an unfixable relationship or situation, at some point the inevitable moment of ‘truth’ comes to light. Your intuition and inner wisdom always knows what is right for you, and when you go against your own inner-truths eventually something has got to give somewhere.

Whether you settle for less than you want in any area of your life, the knowledge that you have compromised your own intuitive truth and inner-knowing you will consciously or unconsciously sabotage your choice. It will not feel comfortable to your soul, and this will bring eventually force change.

Your soul will not allow you to live with the pain of self-betrayal and eventually an outlet for that pain will be found. This may manifest in the form of an addiction, an unsuitable partner choice, depression, resentment ... any number of negative emotion and/or behaviour.

This negative behaviour is a sign that the psyche is deliberately trying to get your attention in order to break out of the situation. The conscious-self may feel too overwhelmed, ‘stuck’ or too frightened to take charge of the situation directly, so you covertly take these steps through displays and feelings of anger, becoming depressed or taking your frustrations out through addictions of all kinds. It is a very loud indicator that a choice you have make, or choices that you are currently making, do not reflect your true soul’s desire and you have settled for less than what you truly desire, want or need.

Always getting exactly what you want is impossible of course, so settling for something less than what you truly want is something that can not be avoided. It is how you deal with them that counts. Each choice that you make has an affect of your life and every facet of it.

So how can we make choices that reflect our inner guidance and are not self-sabotaging?

There is a very subtle difference between ‘settling’ for something and ‘choosing’ something as a passive choice. If you know that you’ve settled for less than you truly wanted, then expect to feel compromised for as long as you are in the situation.

Take time to reflect upon what really matters in your life. Discern the difference between what you want and what you need in your life. Choosing what you need is your ‘soul path’, although what we need may not necessarily be what we want. The path of what we need often anchors us in challenges that serve our life purpose. We discover our greatest talents and inner resources when following the path of what we need in our lives. When making choices based upon the premise of ‘I may want to do this - but I know I need to do that’, you are able to discern your choice based upon your true value system that is in harmony with your true self. 

Choosing what you know resonates with your soul and such an approach to your life may not necessarily make your decisions easier, but wisdom and inner clarity makes navigating your life a much more fulfilling experience.

Joanne Walmsley


  1. It toke me some time to understand what you was saying, but i think i got it now, its not about the choices we make as we will get whatever our soul needs anyway, and it's not about what we want but rather what our soul need, so we don't actually get what we want it's about excepting
    whatever we get and not complain about it

    Where i got confused was when you said that we should not settle for less, then later you said that we could not always get what we wanted and therefore had to settle for less anyway, and then you said it was not about what we want, but what ours soul needs,
    so overall it don't matter what choices we make, as it is not based upon what we want, and no matter what choice we make the outcome will be the same, not what we want, but what our soul needs, so we really don't have any choice, but have to except what we get and that is our life purpose

    1. That was a perfect follow-up and clarifying response. Thank you!

  2. Thank you Joanne....ending my 37 year marriage and surprisingly it feel good to be moving forward. Bless you! <3

  3. You are a magnificent earth angel in which I am truly grateful for all the knowledge and understanding that you provide this magical universe. Love and light to you and the entire planet.πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’šπŸŒŽπŸ’«☝🏼

  4. I m extremely amazed..i think this is written for my help..see since last few days i m repetedly seeing angle numbers ..n getting answer of each number.
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  5. Thanks Joanne, this resonates with me so much, And I totally agree with every word! Thank you for your hard work, always. Peace xx

  6. Beautiful message. Thank you so much. Blessings. 1/1/21

  7. Not what WE WANT but what OUR SOUL NEEDS!!! I OVERSTAND and SEE the LIGHT!!

  8. Thank you Joanna, you truly are an inspirationπŸ˜πŸ€—❤️πŸ§‘πŸ’›

  9. Love You SoulSister ❤️

    Keep shining your light and sprinkling your Stardust and sharing your Magic across the world πŸ’«✨❤️✨πŸ’«.

    Love everything and everyone that breaths air on Beautiful Mother Earth across the world ✨❤️🌍❤️✨

    Sending Love Light and all my Blessings to all reading this message.

    Have A Magical Life πŸ’«❤️πŸ’«

    Tank Twomey Loves You All ❤️ 26/10/

    Magical Regards ✨
    Tank Twomey ❤️
    Goodness Army ✨

  10. I appreciate you for sharing your wisdom πŸ’› it is helping and healing me. Thank You πŸ˜‡ God Bless

  11. Ditto Everyone! Joanne, thank you! your spiritual wisdom has supported, encouraged, guided, and helped me stay connected to the Higher Realms to align with Spirit as we navigate this Earthly Realm, achieving our soul-agreed-upon purpose. Every choice does count, and I do anguish about many of them~now especially, after taking what I believed to be a Great Leap of Faith, after three years I decided to accept my beloved's invitation to move in with him. I have been in emotional spiritual physical upheaval since doing so and I am shocked at it, but your description informs me it is my own soul refusing to allow betrayal. how can i be so head over heels in love, yet so unhappy now in his home?

  12. Thank you, Joanne. It all makes sense. Decisions, decisions. I'll keep being guided by the plethora of Angel numbers coming at me most of the day, every day, as beams of energetic knowledge from the Universe ✨♾️πŸ‘️πŸŒŒπŸ™πŸ½πŸ˜ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ½❤️🌈🌟✨πŸ’«